Please help with advice and support

[Ken62]

Remove her safety net. Quit letting her know that she can always come back if her fantasy doesn't pan out. This is the Big Girl Panties stage of the game. She has made a choice, now allow her to feel the full impact of what leaving you means. It means the friendship is over. It means she solves all of her problems without your safety net, counsel, support, interest. She is on her way to being D so let her feel that now.

You are not throwing away 12 years, broken. SHE IS walking away from 12 years. Let her feel the chill of that. You keep kissing her, hugging her, talking friendship with her - geez - she's thinking "This is easier than I thought!"

Big Girl Panties.

Greek

Thanks Greek!

I really needed to see this (even if on someone else's thread). In my case it is 24 years of M she is walking away from! This is why I gave her the settlement check already and got my credit cards back. As far as I am concerned we are already divorced and she can have the next three months to live that life before it becomes final and see if she likes it. I feel so good that I have been able to detach and drop the rope. I hope I can continue to do that and keep up my PMA. Having fun doing things with other people and looking forward to going out with friends this coming Friday including a new lady friend who I only met a few weeks ago!

Feel free to read and comment on my sitch and send Coach over too! Thanks!

(Sorry to hijack)

Ken