Yes it is tough but at the same token I can and will deal with it for the sake of my children. The biggest issue that I have is the need to stay quite and not confront her about it. I am keeping my emotion in check, which is another big change for me. One that quite frankly I am very proud of. I think I am handleing this pretty well. That is not to say that I am not angry but my anger is not going to control me or change the path that I am on.
The big concern I have with pushing her out is MY time with the kids. If legally I would have to leave then it does not make any sense for me to confront her I would much rather spend as much time as I can with my kiddies. If the L tell me that I could probably stay and still have my kids, then quite frankly I am willing to confront. If for no other reason than to stop playing these childish games. My expectation of her accepting responsibility is ZERO. I do understand that she is sick.
Another issue I have are the finances. I feel like I am helping to fund her A. Granted both of our paychecks go into the same account and we are working to pay down the debt but since the income is split 75% me and 25% her - I am helping to pay down the debt a lot faster. This is right thing to do but it sure does not make me feel any better knowing that she is along for a free ride.
TF - Did you and your S discuss OP? If so, how did the convo go.
Kerry I noticed that you confronted can you give me some talking points?
"The difficulties of Life are intended to make us BETTER,not bitter". "Fear is a prison, where you are the jailer. FREE YOURSELF!" "Life is usually all about how you handle Plan B." - Jack3Beans
