I agree that it's better to be honest about your feelings even if you don't want to talk about it then: "I'm feeling sad right now but it's not a good time for me to talk about it".
About the "line" of your R...I can see how hard that would be. Personally, if I was ever lucky enough to be in piecing, I would want to have the chapters of our M marked in an intentional way (between H and I). It might look the same from the outside, but I would want H and I to have a private acknowledgement of the "chapter breaks" together. There is a reason that people have weddings...it's a ritual that expresses a very strong intention and commitment. When that intention/commitment has been broken, I feel that some kind of marking of re-commitment would be called for eventually.
me: 42 | STBXH: 41 | T: 18 | M: 10 | separation: Jan 3, 2010 | they deserve better: S7 & D4 current thread: http://tinyurl.com/3y8sxcp .: first breathe, then heal, then start LIVING :.
