Allen is this the letter you are referring to? That you posted in mb28's thread, right?
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From SYMCINC.com Penny tupy:
Protection Phase Letter:
Dear ________,
I love you and I married you for life. I want to remain married to you. I am willing and committed to doing what it takes to be the spouse you've always wanted and to address the things that I did wrong in our marriage.
The affair is so painful for me that it will destroy the love I have for you. In order to protect those feelings I must end all contact with you. As soon as the affair is over I would love to talk with you about our future. Until that time please respect my wish for no contact whatsoever in any form.
In an emergency you can reach me through ______. Arrangements for seeing children and handling finances are_____.
Sincerely, [YOUR NAME]
GG,turns out that you can still get health benefits under legal separation....and in my WH's case he found out you can still add your Ex (we aren't EX yet) onto his health plan for an extra 80 bucks a month or something.
I believe in your case, I would do the protection letter, exposure, GAL IT UP!! and within a short time move to legal separation to protect yourself because I am pretty sure that it is not as involved as divorce let alone it is not a permanent dissolution of your marriage (at least not in my state).
Is getting a job something that will shock your H? Just curious! And if you GAL will he get to hear all about it somehow?
me,34 exH,34 S,16 months S:3/31/09-left for OW started DBing 10/09 d final: sometime 10/10 current: http://www.divorcebusting.com/forums/ubbthreads.php?ubb=showflat&Number=2022856&page=1 met in 2004
But, I would also reccmend you draft an exposure script as well, so that everyone you expose to is hearing th same story from you and you don't get nervous.
The exposure script will read similarly to the PP letter, but would be addressed to a third party.
