flowmom | need to commit to myself

[flowmom]

Right now you are still trying to act like a W to your H but you are doing so at a distance. Once you detach you will see in a kind way that his problems are just that... his to own and address if he so chooses.

Yes, I see the work that I have ahead of me.

Lastly, despite all this stuff going on in your life really try and live in the moment. All the "stuff" will still be going on so if you can have a good moment here or there (dinner out, yoga) then really be present.

I've done better on that on other nights to myself, but the last two nights have been harder. Two nights in a row is one of the hardest milestones that I've dealt with since the separation. And I think that having a cold is dragging me down emotionally...I don't have the energy to generate PMA.

My H started texting me last Thurs. and Friday. I am still STUNNED at the stuff he says to me. How hard it is and blah blah blah. TOUGH! It can't be *that* hard for him or else he would dump OW (who seems to be the source of his problems) and get to work on himself. He still blames and bashes me for his affair and yes, it did upset me for a bit so I get detachment is not easy.

(((CG))) It would please me to give your H a piece of my mind . I know you've done a lot of personal work to get to where you are now...but no one needs to be undermined that way.