flowmom | need to commit to myself

[flowmom]

Have you checked out meetup.com in your city? That might help you meet some new single women who you have something in common with to go out on some of your new free nights. Also, I think craigslist has a Platonic section.

I have looked at meetup.com. I was interested in the hiking one but it's full. My interests have lain dormant for so long that I would have to revive some before even knowing what meetup to participate in.

I'm also scared about being around newly single people as friends...I won't want to talk about separation/D with strangers. I especially don't want to talk to WAS...I just can't handle it right now.

I'm very picky about people and that can be a barrier to me trying things. It's not that I'm snobby, it's just that I feel like I'm dying inside when I'm around people who are on a completely different wavelength than me. I suck at small talk, etc. I'm not an easy person to get to know...people who appreciate me typically start to appreciate me once they've known me for a long time.

When I became a mother I just couldn't handle random playgroup/park interactions with other mothers...they made me feel even more alone as I was trying to create a new social network. It wasn't until I found a "tribe" of mothers who I clicked with that I felt socially "at home". But the good thing for me to see here is that I actually did feel very alone socially when I became a mother and it took a long time but I did develop a new social network...not just of random people but of people who are awesome. Unfortunately this city is very transient and even families tend to move away , so it's often about starting over and over again.

One untapped social network that I have is that I live in an intentional community. There are some single women who live here who I'm not that close to (and they are in a different age group), but they are good people. I guess I could look at figuring out if there's enough common ground with them to try an evening out.