wrong attitude, that's emotionally charged, you don't want to make anyone suffer deeply for anything, that's really bad karma, smarten up!
Making her work for it isn't making her suffer and if that's your intention, it's a bad one.
Making her work for it accomplishes a few things: - you get to find out if the reconciliation is real or fake because there are a ton of fake one's that take place, the WAW comes back, it was too easy for her, gives her the feelings that coming back wasn't the right thing to do, doesn't feel right, she didn't have to work for it, she pursued the other man, she enjoyed those feelings but coming back to an easy/conquered husband... not as fulfilling. - trust isn't just given easily, it's worked for through consistent effort and actions, she hasn't done any of this, don't deprive her of the process, gives you a chance to build trust with her as well by showing her that you aren't some evil prick bastard who's going to make her pay for her indiscretions for the rest of her life, that wouldn't be fun - maybe a time for you guys to date again without the label of a "relationship" over your heads, have fun without pressure - gives you some time to figure out if you really want her back, right now it just might be a reflex
