H has said he doesn't want a divorce....not because he wants to be married; but, because he feels it would be to my advantage not be divorced because of his health benefits. H said 'If at some point in time you meet someone and want to remarry, then you can get divorced.' H DOES NOT want to EVER remarry.
However, I am not so naive as to see this is TOTALLY to HIS advantage. We have quite a few assets and it would be greatly to his disadvantage to divide them up.
I just started doing 180's and going dark; we have not seen each other for about a month...thought I would give it a little more time before doing the legal stuff. I handle all the finances, so I am not worried about that.
I realize now, I should start exposing H to his friends...seems so hard to do...and I know it shouldn't be!
I have appointment with C on Thursday....she's been out of town since H moved north.
I also have a job lined up! Going to finish up paper work on it shortly. I am excited about it....can pretty much work when I want to. (I'm retired..wasn't sure I wanted to give that up, but this will allow me to choose to work what days I want! )
again, thanks all... ~gg
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M55 H55 my D31 H D30 1st met her when she was 25 M 22yrs...2nd for me, 1st for H OW 2005 mother of H daughter, came back to introduce D 1bomb 6/05 2bomb 7/08 3bomb 2/10 moved up north
Going to finish up paper work on it shortly. I am excited about it....can pretty much work when I want to. (I'm retired..wasn't sure I wanted to give that up, but this will allow me to choose to work what days I want! 
