Do you know your list of things you need in a case of reconciliation? You know starting with transparency, open discussion of the A, counseling, a timeline (if you want this)...
it could be a lengthy list. It's personal to you. But I recommend reading the list of articles on survivinginfidelity.com under their "healing library."

AND NO RUSH TO TELL HER WHAT YOU'VE DECIDED!!!

me,34
exH,34
S,16 months
S:3/31/09-left for OW
started DBing 10/09
d final: sometime 10/10
current:
http://www.divorcebusting.com/forums/ubbthreads.php?ubb=showflat&Number=2022856&page=1
met in 2004