It would be nice to discuss over all raising of the kids, rather than be subjected to emails about what I'm doing wrong---or how I am not supporting him (as per the email above). D13 did decide to stay for track after school, so we'll see what the fall out is. It is extra hard for me to deny this of her when we have NEVER not let any of the kids do what they want to do. There has never been any discussion about what we should or shouldn't let them do----until last fall when D13 went out for volleyball and he deemed it to be a waste/interfering with her SB career---since VB and SB are competing sports in the fall for our high school schedule. I took the heat for "allowing" her to go out for VB, although I didn't know it was going to be an issue---and my only role was to not tell her not to go out for VB. My guess is this will be a turning point in how we parent.....I will hope for the best, but prepare for the worst. I would really appreciate a conversation about it----but probably expecting too much.
They are with me the majority of the time---although a slim majority. My home (our home) is their permanent residence, and I guess since he left-----I feel like I should have the primary role, but that has not been determined legally...........ughhhhhh........
Me 45 M 25 yrs; T 31 yrs;bomb 8/15/06; moves out 7/18/08 D 18, D 14, S 12