I suppose this will come down to how you want to co-parent. Will you discuss the over all raising of the kids and go from there? Will you be the primary care giver and end up making the majority of the decisions?
I have my kids a huge majority of the time. I pretty much make all the choices, though D9 did ask her dad if she could take violin lessons at school and he is renting that since I bought D11's flute.
He may expect more but hasn't given that himself. I suppose after some of the recent happenings involving ex and his girlfriend, the door with him will be only open a sliver.
kat
Me-53(and learning!) S24, S21, D18, D17 Just keep swimming, Just keep swimming. Dory