Maynard, W may have left those photos if she doesn't want OM to see them. She may have forgotten them, too.
This week will be hard but it will get better. (((hugs)))
me,34 exH,34 S,16 months S:3/31/09-left for OW started DBing 10/09 d final: sometime 10/10 current: http://www.divorcebusting.com/forums/ubbthreads.php?ubb=showflat&Number=2022856&page=1 met in 2004
You ever notice how some of the things we fear are the hardest things to do end up being pretty easy? That's the way I look at this. When I'm scared, I panic and blow the whole situation out of proportion. But as I live and move through it, it just gets easier and easier. Even the OW doesn't seem like an issue anymore. He has his rights to whatever that ends up being, and I have the right to sit back with popcorn and watch the carwreck that I know it will be. Maybe all you need is a different perspective. And to put those photos away where you don't have to see them.
((HUGS))
Me: 26 Ex: 27 Son: 5
Divorced: 3/2010 Each day is another opportunity to do it right.
Even the OW doesn't seem like an issue anymore. He has his rights to whatever that ends up being, and I have the right to sit back with popcorn and watch the carwreck that I know it will be. Maybe all you need is a different perspective.
Dude - I needed that quote - thanks man. This helps me.
Maynard - hope your having a good day. Keep your head up buddy. You are man of integrity and honor you should know this.
"The difficulties of Life are intended to make us BETTER,not bitter". "Fear is a prison, where you are the jailer. FREE YOURSELF!" "Life is usually all about how you handle Plan B." - Jack3Beans
thanks for checking in...work blocked me from DB, so I can only post from home now...kinda sucks, but I guess I'm more productive now...lol
W is to retrieve some last articles...I am dropping the rope and feel like I'm at that place...I've already said everything I can say, so I think it will just be "hello, and Goodbye (W's name)."
I would love to continue to teach or lecture etc...as I mentioned I already let her know that w/o an attempt at rec. there will be no friendship- no point in repeating myself.
Today was good, feel free and pretty light- w/o burden...accepting things I cannot control, and PMA very well.
OK, so W asked that I meet her somewhere to assist in retrieving her belongings...I was out to eat so suggested we arrange for another time.
I find it insulting that W would suggest in Sun that she would be right back to retrieve the items, then ask that a key be left for her on mon, then say mon night, then not show or reply, then agree to a time today, only to ask that I go and meet her w/ them?!
WTF?!
I just had a day dream...I will not mention this again...and I am not beating myself up, but I am disappointed in myself.
The following...laying in bed next to W 7-8 months ago...turning to her and looking her in the eyes, and asking
"are you happy? Do I make you happy? What can I do better?"
I would kill to have done these things...yes I am upset for having not- I / we were on auto-pilot...WTF cant she see that?
I dropped the remaining things of W's at a neutral location. Her reply was- I wanted to get the yest. why you being a dirk? I wanted to get the yest. WTF?!
Unfortunately I did reply... ' I was out o eat...you were supposed to get them Mon the Tues.
later I added-
I dont want this anymore, good luck in your life.
I am done...darkness will prevail from here...I have rid myself of her belongings and excuses to keep me waiting for her to show up one last time...fully prepared for these to be the last words to W.
Please pray for me to have the strength to try something different, to rid myself of my obligations and duty- to be a better man to myself, b/c I do deserve better.
Good for you dropping them off in a neutral location so as not to have your chain yanked all week. You go! My thoughts are with you and I know you have the strength to try something different for yourself. You just proved it by dropping that stuff off somewhere else.
