Please help with advice and support

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She moved everything out this weekend and we're discussing splitting up "our" stuff. I let her take anything that was hers before we moved in together. Caved in over the weekend and asked her to reconsider one more time. Gave her a hug and quick peck before I left to meet friends, but I told her that she was also walking out on our friendship (again). This is brutal. If she asked to come back right this minute I honestly don't know what I'd say, even though I asked her to. It's just so hard to throw away 12 years of my life.

Remove her safety net. Quit letting her know that she can always come back if her fantasy doesn't pan out. This is the Big Girl Panties stage of the game. She has made a choice, now allow her to feel the full impact of what leaving you means. It means the friendship is over. It means she solves all of her problems without your safety net, counsel, support, interest. She is on her way to being D so let her feel that now.

You are not throwing away 12 years, broken. SHE IS walking away from 12 years. Let her feel the chill of that. You keep kissing her, hugging her, talking friendship with her - geez - she's thinking "This is easier than I thought!"

Big Girl Panties.

Greek