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The main reason that she is in the house still are my kids. I live for them and this would destroy the boys. I do not want to get into why Daddy has asked Mommy to leave with them. I also so enjoy the time with my D that I am not ready to give it up.

Once I have a little more info about the legality of this I may make a move. Right now I am focused on healing and being the best parent that I can be. I also know that I am not at a point yet where I need to be. It is coming...and coming soon.

Just to fill everyone in on the bonus...I used it to pay down debt. This was the right thing to do and for me is another step of being the man that I want to be. A man of honor & strength.


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I am sorry that you found info on the PA. I am sure you know that I don’t advocate snooping at all. But it is something we all do at some point. It is also something we must all stop at some point.


No more snooping for me. I'm done - done. At this point the M is totally dead.


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It is very difficult to maintain your dignity and continue your growth with a MLCer living in your house and bed. Very difficult.


Funny I thought about this a lot yesterday. Personally she does not define my diginty! I do. She will ultimately answer for her actions - that time will come in God's time. I do not know for sure yet if it is a PA - seems that way but I cannot say with 100% certainty. When I confront I suspect that she will deny. For the record, I am really need some advice on how to confront. What to say, etc. Once again, I am not ready to confront yet but want to begin to prepare myself.

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If it is to maintain some sense of control…well you know what the answer to that is…


I only have control of myself - so no I have thrown her out thinking that I can control her. I am simply being the man that I want to be which is kind, loving and understanding. Actually - I think I'm falling in love with myself laugh

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Personally, I think that it slows everything down in many ways…I don’t know if I think that is a bad or a good thing, probably somewhere more in the middle….


So her staying is slowing things down?

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