You are doing well and I do agree with Bill, I think you are really finally beginning to understand.
I am glad that you are getting a second legal opinion.
I am sorry that you found info on the PA. I am sure you know that I don’t advocate snooping at all. But it is something we all do at some point. It is also something we must all stop at some point.
Having a live in, I hate to say this, but I think Bill is right that maybe it is time for her to move out. It is very difficult to maintain your dignity and continue your growth with a MLCer living in your house and bed. Very difficult. My circumstances are very unique because of our schedules, but if either of us were to be home more, I would NOT be able to live this way.
You will have to ask yourself what your reasons are for remaining in the same house. If it is simply fear of the unknown or of this not working out positively, then that fear needs to be squashed because the MLCer is going to do what they will, regardless of where they live.
If it is to maintain some sense of control…well you know what the answer to that is…
If it is for some other reason, or because you honestly and truly can handle it, then you have to learn HOW to make it as easy as possible for you…
Only you have those answers, the rest of us, only have opinions and what works/worked for us…
Personally, I think that it slows everything down in many ways…I don’t know if I think that is a bad or a good thing, probably somewhere more in the middle….
"Acceptance doesn't mean resignation. It means understanding that something is what it is and there's got to be a way through it."--Michael J. Fox
