I apologize for getting so defensive. In my eyes, I was asking a question and some of responses had nothing to do with what I was asking.
Robx - No offense, but some of your posts come across as rude and condesending. I already know that my husband does not think I'm fun, that he think that I don't have any value and that I don't have any self esteem. These were not revelations to me. To answer some of your questions to clarify - we have a housekeeper that comes once every two weeks. I don't normally ask my husband to vacuum or clean the house. I had scheduled the carpet cleaning about a month and a half ago; two days before they were supposed to come, while I was working and my husband was home with the dog, the dog desteoyed a feather pillow and there were feathers EVERYWHERE. I would not have if we were not having the carpets cleaned. I unexpectedly had to go into work the day before the carpet cleaning and I NICELY said, "hey, while I'm at work it would be a huge help if you could vacuum in the bedroom and pickup the dog poop. I wont be home until really late." I would have just done all this myself as had been suggested had I not been called into work. When I did get home from work and saw this hadn't been done I did just go ahead and did it myself and didn't say anything to my husband. I didn't go into all this detail in the post because it was irrelevant (at least I thought) to my question. I have just been having difficulty determining if I should still ask for help and I got my answer.
No offense taken, I wasn't being rude & condescending as you put it, I was being honest and direct, maybe you prefer it when people hold back, maybe you're used to that, I'm just here to say that when people do this, it doesn't work. The shortest distance between 2 points is a straight line.
When I read your posts, I read excuses about everything and I get the feeling that you make alot of excuses regularly. I've said it before in a few other threads, excuses don't explain and explanations don't excuse. Stop making excuses or trying to explain everything, you're trying to get us to see things from your point of view, but the thing is we already have your point of view.
In your eyes you were asking a question and the responses had nothing to do your with what you were asking but that should tell you something. Maybe you were asking a question to get some sympathy instead of asking the right questions.
I'll get back to one of your questions, you want more time in the day. Work less at your 2 jobs, spend more time at home. Get the housekeeper to come in more frequently, dog poop accumulating under a bed is a sign that you need to clean the house more frequently plain & simple and if you guys can't clean your own house, pay someone to do it for you, that's ok, housekeeping is a job that people get paid to do by others, you might as well get them to come in more often and keep that house spotless so there is no excuse. A messy disorganized home is just a symptom of a messy disorganized life. Even if you get the housekeeper to come in more often, I would still work less, you just sound like you're running yourself crazy busy for no real net gain, just to stay out of the house if anything.
