I'm sorry if you've posted about this already, but have you talked to your doctor about your depression? If taking medication could help you with the depression, I think it would be wise to seriously consider that. I have been through serious depressions before and I know how hard it can be to get out of it, even if one is going to IC every week. I have regrets about not taking antidepressants when I was going through that. In retrospect I see that I made it into a huge deal in my mind when I could have looked at it as a boost on the way to gaining emotional wellness.
And have you been clear with your IC about what you are going through?
Your doctor and IC are part of your support network and it's time to let them help you during a crisis in your life.
me: 42 | STBXH: 41 | T: 18 | M: 10 | separation: Jan 3, 2010 | they deserve better: S7 & D4 current thread: http://tinyurl.com/3y8sxcp .: first breathe, then heal, then start LIVING :.
Keep your head up. Be very gentle on yourself. Go get that dog you wanted. Run on the treadmill - this is YOUR time. You can only control how you deal with this - you cannot control your S - let go and let God sweetie. It's better off in his hands.
So take a day to think about what YOU want to do for YOU, write them down and then start working on them. You will find that you begin to feel a lot better as you are taking back control of your life and emotions. You do not want to be on his MLC emotional train.
Know that God has an awesome plan for our lives, and sometimes He starts changing things so fast that we feel dizzy and disoriented, like a lump of clay on a potter's wheel. But we have to trust that He is working out what is best for us. We need to just go with the flow and let Him make us into something beautiful.
Know that I am here for you...and I believe...actually I KNOW that you can do this!
Eric
"The difficulties of Life are intended to make us BETTER,not bitter". "Fear is a prison, where you are the jailer. FREE YOURSELF!" "Life is usually all about how you handle Plan B." - Jack3Beans
FM - I told the neighbors that I would have to check with my H. I have not sent him a message about this, but I may tomorrow so that he reaches out to them himself.
Eric - Thank you very very much! I have been looking at pictures of puppies for adoption. They are so very cute! Like you said, I have to work on me, no matter what happens with my H because I cannot control what he does, only what I do. It has been so hard to detach, but I will keep trying and hopefully be successful.
OLD THREAD-http://tinyurl.com/y98nuty Me 44 H 51 T 15 yrs M 9+ yrs No Kids "You may be deceived if you trust too much, but you will live in torment unless you trust enough."
Definitely do leave the going away party in his court and let him handle that.
Never underestimate the power of a puppy.:) We got our dog not long pre-crisis and she has been a God send. She loves me the best, she cuddles with me at night, and she just loves to be near me and follows me everywhere. It is an ego booster.:) Sounds kind of corny, but true.
Eric, that was beautifully said!
(((Destiny))) Hope you are able to find something fun to distract you today.
Is is okay that I ask him not to disclose our situation with our neighbors if he contacts them? I would really prefer that our business remains our business.
OLD THREAD-http://tinyurl.com/y98nuty Me 44 H 51 T 15 yrs M 9+ yrs No Kids "You may be deceived if you trust too much, but you will live in torment unless you trust enough."
I know you had a few things to do today - keep busy. You are doing fine. Know that you can do this and reach down and pull out the strength that is in YOU.
Romans 8:18 - I consider that the sufferings of this present time (this present life) are not worth being compared with the glory that is about to be revealed to us and in us and for us and conferred on us!
Notice the use of "us" above...You have the strength in you! I know you do and I know He knows that YOU do!
"The difficulties of Life are intended to make us BETTER,not bitter". "Fear is a prison, where you are the jailer. FREE YOURSELF!" "Life is usually all about how you handle Plan B." - Jack3Beans
Cat and Eric - Thank you. I just returned from a visit with my IC. Very difficult discussion and morning. How do I do this when I having difficulty with hope and faith?
OLD THREAD-http://tinyurl.com/y98nuty Me 44 H 51 T 15 yrs M 9+ yrs No Kids "You may be deceived if you trust too much, but you will live in torment unless you trust enough."
DU, Cat is right - getting all that back takes time but is well worth it. The key thing right now is doing what you can to put your focus on something other than your H. It is hard but can be done. Try new things. Go new places. Meet new people. Do things just for you!
