setting boundaries when not clear if A is over

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Back from the lawyers.. boy, information overload. Need to digest. Can share though that in terms of visitation rights with a newborn, as the mum and primary caregiver of the child, WH will have to fit in with my needs and that of the baby. There are no minimum or maximin visitation hours prescribed by law.

Got home and found WH had sent an email to tell me he had no luck finding work interstate that he's really going to go all out to try here. He says he's really starting to feel the pressure of being jobless now.

I think he's reaching out. He aslo said "I'm thinking of you and the baby and I hope you are ok". I do feel sorry for him, being quite lonesome in this country now.

Hoping "fantasy" fog is lifting...

I wish my next DB coaching session was tomorrow.. I know I meant to reply all upbeat and friendly and how I get it that we're over and I'm so glad to be moving on, but I really want to tell him 'look at what you got yourself into you silly fool - maybe this'll help you wake up'.

But that wouldn't be the line of loving detachment would it?

I wonder what Puppy Dog Tails would do in this situation.He'd take a more hardline tough love approach?

Newmama, what do you reckon? You're a wise one!!