So what does the C say is the answer to your W's recovery? Yes, she is addicted! BTW, it wasn't b/c she was horny that she was having websex with these men, it was b/c of the thrill & sexual excitement that came from her encounter with them. If she was just horny, she would have turned to you, but she wanted the "thrill".
It's kind of like when a man becomes famous and has all these females grabbing at him and telling him how wonderful he is and they want to sleep with him, etc. It is a lot of temptation but the real problem is when he starts to believe what his fans are saying.
Your W is not remoseful yet, even though all the tears. She is just sorry for getting caught and afraid you have grounds for custody of kids.
At this point, she might think she can hold off until she has you convinced she is through with the websex, but she doesn't even have the desire to want to stop. Until she wants to stop and be the wife& mother she should be, there will be no healing started.......and no lasting changes.
It is not about what you feel should work in your M. It is about doing the work that gets the right results. Do what works!
