Divorced, Dating, and Parenting

[~Sol]

Hey OT, I will keep that in mind. My D already has had some good opportunities while in a regular K-12 school, and the only reason she wants to go to a gifted school is becuase some of her friends are going. I already checked it out, it's a tough program and they do kick kids back to regular schools. My D has a hard time keeping up with the advanced stuff she already gets, and putting her under more pressure, staying up late doing far more homework, and the mandatory extra-curricular activities she must do in that gifted school will be too much. This time around both my X and myself don't have the luxury to drop her off an extra 20 miles and pick her up. I know she will excel in her future schooling, she gets A's and B's. When I went through my college-prep classes in a regular school I had a hard time keeping up, it all depended on the teacher whether they were strict or easy. But putting all that pressure on my D at this age is something that I tend to agree with my X, even though I have different reasons. When my D turns 14, she can request that we go to court if she wants to live full-time with me so she can go to a different school district. She doesn't need to go to a gifted school right away, there is still the 7th and 8th grades but she will have a better chance when she is 14 so a judge can rule in my D's favor, and on that note I need to have my act together by then, be debt free and put all of my energy into my D's education.

I am being patient but I also need to plan for this. This is why I am picking my battles with my X. Right now is not feasible or economical to go into a court battle, much less transport my D everyday to a school that is far. My D's education is of prime concern for me, more so than her mom's. Bottom line is that it will take money to drag my X back into court, and it will probably add more gray hairs to my head! I am already working towards this, by creating a new business to supplement my income and perhaps replace my current dead-end job.