My husband is addicted to an emotional affair

[nicole8]

ok, weird. Haven't talked with my H since he called on Wednesday. He texted me really early this morning (Sunday) asking if "we were ever going to speak again". WTF? I didn't respond. He texted again 10 minutes later, "hello??". I again didn't respond. Finally two hours later he texted "are you awake". I finally responded and told him that we could speak again, and yes I was awake.

It really didn't go much further than that....he didn't call, or say much more in the few other texts we sent. About the only useful thing I got was that he maybe still wants to talk, although he didn't make much effort and he told me he isn't sleeping much.

I am still at a loss on what I should be doing. I have been doing my own thing and just going on with my life. He on the other hand is still at his Mom's house on vacation, as I call it. I am going to speak with a DB coach this week hopefully. I am VERY excited about this.

As much as I don't want to make excuses for my husband, I do feel like I am abandoning him to some extent. But on the other hand he is the one that went over to Mom's house.. yes, I do think he is depressed and I don't think I helped any. I do feel responsible for not recognizing how he felt and that he was withdrawing. But on the other hand I am a naturally pretty positive person and I just would try to cheer him up.

Ahhh, again I want this to be over. I am going to really try and make an effort to try and connect with him and validate how he is feeling. Hopefully my DB coach can help with ideas on how to do this. Because everything that seems right is wrong.