yup, you got it.. I am not suggesting you are sneaking out any back doors, I meant HE was.
Re pressure to end affair.. you ca'nt pressure H.. it has to be OW and OWD etc... you expose this to friends and family, ANYONE you KNOW who will apply pressure to your H to END the AFFAIR.
YOU do NOT directly pressure H in ANY WAY. It's too stressful for you and it will just do more damage.
You build a team of support around you to pressure him to act his age.
You need to start exposing to anyone who may help you and speak up on your behalf.
If H will be THAT livid that you exposed to his daughter, you expose to someone that will expose to her.
Is your H giong to remain up north indefinitely?
has he packed his things up yet?
Definiately expose to your children... looks like your D is old enough to know what her F is doing to her mother... go there too..
Exposure is your most powerful weapon against an affair.. being nice or pursuing husband to reconsider just drives him further away... everyone tries it, I don't reccomend you try that... it has never worked with anyone on this forum... NEVER.
