Thanks Whatnow, thats' some pretty good ideas right there.
Ken, it sounds like you need to get OMW woken up... print up the email you have that's condemning and share it with her.
Once you have done that, and OMW is CONVINCED there IS an affair taking place you show your wife the emails and confront her.
She will be LIVID... She will blast you.
BUT, you will show her you are NOT going to be fooled by her "he's gay" story or anything else she lies to you about.
You NEED GOOD EVIDENCE before confrontation.
She will TRY TO LIE, but you need good ammo here...
You will NEED support from friends and family and THEY won't know who to believe, so you NEED PROOF so yoru friends will support you.
Step 1 - Intelligence - collect a mountain of proof of an affair
Step 2 - Expose - reveal the affair to any and all supportive friends and family who will apply pressure on the wife to end the affair - OMW ESPECIALLY... have LOTS of GOOD evidence.. you have to convince her friends and family that she's cheating, she WILL LIE... you want to get her to LIE to them FIRST, and THEN in step 3 you show evidence to her.... once her friends catch her in a lie they will believe YOU and will be more supportive of you.. untl you can PROVE it, they will turn their heads away and tell you its your business they arne't taking sides.
Step 3 - Intervention - you confront WIFE with supportive family and friends to END the affair
Step 4 - Protection - if she refuses to END the AFFAIR we go to this step, I will cover in more detail later on
