Mila - I feel the same way. I am distraught when I react and okay when I put my H out of my head. The selfishness is just unbelieveable!
OLD THREAD-http://tinyurl.com/y98nuty Me 44 H 51 T 15 yrs M 9+ yrs No Kids "You may be deceived if you trust too much, but you will live in torment unless you trust enough."
I see now that I also left the l out of replies! Bad typing day!
Yes, it is almost "empowering" to be in control of our emotions and actions! Maybe we are getting something out of this afterall guys! Now, to be consistant!
M48 H53 M16 T18 S16 D13 SS30 H drops bomb PA/8-30-09 H leaves 12-30-09 D filed by H 2-10 H asks to come home 4-11 Piecing
Another bad news. OW's husband just told me today that OW announced that she has decided not to comeback to him and that she has contacted a lawyer. The guess is that she wants her separation agreement worked out so she has a way to pay for her expenses. She has no job, her H is paying for her apartment and she's been charging the Affair expenses (flights and restaurants) to her H credit card. He just got the bill; she'd charged over $2,000 last month.
Last week she told her H that she is torn and hasn't decided what she wants, well my WH rushed over there and now she is sure again. That's how it's been for a while. Every time she starts to doubt my WH fly's over and she is sure, after he leaves... she doubts again.
OW's H calls me almost every day and we exchange the latest. We talk about everything, what our WS are up to, kids, how it's affecting families and strategise how to drive a wedge in between the two "lovers". It's good to talk to him but it's also stressful, every new development affect me, either gives me hope or upsets me...
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M53 H54 D17 M33Y T38Y Bomb OW 09/09 OUT 10/09 BACK 11/09 OUT 01/10 WANTS TO R 04/10 BACK with OW 05/10 Wants to Reconcile 05/11 I said NO
LOL - maybe I can make millions !!!!! OK...OK...I guess what you are saying is that's an impossible task. You are probably right but there is no harm in trying.
M53 H54 D17 M33Y T38Y Bomb OW 09/09 OUT 10/09 BACK 11/09 OUT 01/10 WANTS TO R 04/10 BACK with OW 05/10 Wants to Reconcile 05/11 I said NO
!!!!! OK...OK...I guess what you are saying is that's an impossible task. You are probably right but there is no harm in trying.