Late evening on Thurs S17 sent me a txt asking if he could stay. I naturally said yes but asked why. He said he didn't feel welcome at XHs. I knew from earlier in the week that they were in dispute over S17 not tidying his room. Long story short S17 did stay the night but didn't come in until 4.30am on Friday morning as he had been out celebrating with his GF over her exam results. I was not impressed.
When XH found out S17 was staying with me he sent me a txt saying to make sure S17 went to college on Friday. This annoyed me BUT I let it go b/c S17 has a habit of only asking to stay when he knows he isn't going to be home until early hours of the morning despite knwoing that it makes me mad.
XH tried to tell me how I should handle the situation and this went on until mid mornig on Friday after I let him know that S17 wouldnt get out of bed and after being an hour and half late for work following trying to get him to go I had given up.
His key phrase had been 'I suggest that...' and this had really started to pee me off. When he finalyy suggested that I set boundaries I flipped. I sent the following txt:
'Don't you think I haven't tried that?. No offence but you have no part in my life now so plese don't continue to tell me what I should or shouldn't do. You wnated out, you got it, be content with that'
Funnily enough I haven't heard from him since
Today was Mother's Day. D19 had arranged for her and the other two to comee round and she was cooking lunch. S17 sebt her txt to say he was cathcing a bus and D14 would be there a little later. When he arrived he had a big bag with him. D14 was due to come home from XHs today so I assumed it was her's. It turns out it was full of his clothes. He asked if he could stay as the arguement with XH was still rumbling on. It's a petty arguement over a few clothes on a bedroom floor, he is a teenager, there are other more important thigs in life but it seems XH and OW have yet to remember that. It was the best Mother's Day present I could have had!
I've told him I won't be a pushover while he hides away from his dad and I reminded him that there will be ground rules (which he didn't like). He told me this is only a temporary arrangement and I'm sure before long he will be back at XHs. Meanwhile though XH must be really sweating over the child maintenance payments he gets from me as it goes a long way to paying his mortgage. Maybe a few clothes on the floor in the future will be less important especially if OW has to go back to work cos my payments have stopped.
Life sure is 'interesting' post D.
Me 43 XH 45 M 2.7.88 Divorce 7.10.09 Kids D20,S17 & D15
