Assuming he communicates decently via email, start there... And, if he doesn't, at least he has an idea of what you're thinking, and can be ready for the conversation, etc...
He has a really bad case of "putting sh&t off"!!! God! I, like you, live and breathe by lists and spreadsheets! He'd make me insane!!! And, how do you plan your life when you don't know if you'll have the kids, etc...
I feel for ya.
Start w/an email.
HUGS FRIEND
Me-46, D-21, S15, S13
After many years w/my head in the sand... I FILED Divorced 6/2011
The average woman would rather have beauty than brains, because the average man can see better than he can think.