Starting Over (Again)

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I forgot to say that my mood today is mostly that he doesn't deserve me. Doing a bit of waffling, I suppose.

Big fat BINGO! My alarm bells are going off. He DOES NOT deserve you! Now let that fact simmer in your mind. Sorry for getting emotional here but I am starting to take a personal interest in your sitch. Let me know if I am out of line.

This may or may not be some tough love from me but I have to say it.

Yes you screwed up but I will say this. IF HE does continue to go on that date despite what you just told him then there is something seriouly wrong with the man. Honestly.

I hate to say it but I think you need to sit down and re-evaluate why you want him back in the first place.

If he really has that little respect for you and your children (born and unborn) then I would tell you to start detaching to the point where he no longer matters because it sounds like your XH is like my XW. They just do not care and are blindsided by their own selfishness.

I think you need to start thinking about your own well being and that of your children in the long run. Start thinking of him as only your XH because that is exactly what he is.

Do what I do. Hold on to a little hope but do not live for it. Go on with life and consider the fact that he may never come back. I honestly think that this type of detachment would be the healthiest thing for you and your children.

I know your hurting and I wish I were there to give you a real hug instead of a virtual one. Please take your time to consider what I just posted.