Rhody5, I'm so sorry about your father's passing. It's terrible to lose a parent, and I understand the pain of your loss. I'm very sorry to hear about it. I'll be thinking of you. Even though my situation (losing a parent) is different from yours, I'll be glad to help you through your grief any way I can. I'm also sorry to hear about your mother's fall. I'm glad that you were able to stay to be with her.
It's too bad your H didn't show more consideration at this time. I hate that he got in the house while you were gone, and I'm sure it bothers you.
When you say you're looking at a legal route, what are you considering?
What day is your birthday?
Again, I'm sorry for your loss. I'm thinking of you.