I am the last person to tell you go on and confront him in a hostile way right now. BUT, I am talking about how you should be thinking IMO, not acting right now. How you implement the course of actions you choose is another issue. First thing is to work on you and how you perceive your share of blame/responsibilities/share re the financial state. IMO, a lot of it comes from how you allowed him to make you feel.
You are not the last nor first stay at home mom. It is not a crime you now need to compensate him for in teh ways he thinks are right. It's all about the way you look at things. I wouldnt do anything before I think things over. Your actions muct be part of an attitude. Not reactions. I insist. Wait till you reply. K
