W officially in R w/ OM-

[jasper67]

had to nix the tanning, wind picked up...I finished the yard and ran my errand.
No word from W reg her last trip...prob out to eat w/ friends and supporters.

I find it ironic that the WS has all the support here...OM, MIL, hangers-on, etc...they sure do recruit all the support they need.

I love my WAW very much, I'm glad that she has people to lean on right now...sadly, she is avoiding the core issues I am attempting to face head-on.

I know that I need support as well, and I find it here...people who know what tey're talking about, people who know what M means and what it takes.

I'm still feeling good...the house is pretty empty and that's OK...it can all be replaced.

I am going to GAL over the next 9 weeks by taking a course for voluteer rescue personel...for hurricanes and such...they meet every Wed and certify you in rescue techniques, protocol, and CPR. A few of my friends brought it to my attention...I like helping others and am very much into that sort of thing.

I spoke w/ my parents...they are happy W is gone, and still respect my wishes for Piecing, so long as I don't self-destruct or keep myself sick.

I'm wondering, I know every sitch is diff...and I'm sure the following can occur...I'm curious if closure doesn't come...if WAS is so hell bent in what they're doing that it is never offerred? I know that I can start healing further as soon as I drop the rope...I feel like I kinda have, yet I am waiting for W to reappear to get the last of her shirt, so probably not that much.

[rr22]

You will know more about how you feel about closure when a month goes by when she isn't randomly yanking your chain. A month goes quickly too, in a sense. Set your blackout goal for weeks or months at a time and maybe it will seem more doable.

It seems on these boards that a lot of these infidelity sitches crash in 6 months to a year. Once you blackout and GAL, you may not be as open to piecing as you think. Who knows?

[rr22]

That rescue class sounds interesting and like a good way to meet some neat new people.

[jasper67]

thanks...I agree about the blackout and GALing leading to a very diff place... I was there after only a week of NC...sadly she shook up alot of shirt in the last 2 days...could sleep at all over it.

Not going to have any expectations...just ready to start and get back to where I was. It was peaceful and orderly w/o W.

[Allen A]

I haev said this before, YOU THROW her stuff OUT... get RID of it.. STOP waiting for HER to come BACK and pick it up...

YOu just look REALLY DESPERATE leaving her crap there waiting for her to come by...

Take it to your friend's place (preferably one who hates her and is never home) and you leave it there... send her an email telling her its there.

I want to know how you can tell her you don't want to be friends, but you are ACTING like a friend right NOW.

Throw her things OUT of the HOUSE.

[ericmsant2]

Maynard -

had to nix the tanning, wind picked up...

All I can say is tanning....shite....I'm in the northern east coast I won't be able to tan for another few months.

I find it ironic that the WS has all the support here...OM, MIL, hangers-on, etc...they sure do recruit all the support they need.

Yep i know the feeling....mine has the support of all of our mutual friends..the ones that are all divorced. You can't take it personal. The reality is that most friends will want the pain to end so that offer up the support. Since they usually do not understand the core issues they actually think they are doing the right thing. It is sad but true so once again don't take it personally.

I love my WAW very much, I'm glad that she has people to lean on right now...sadly, she is avoiding the core issues I am attempting to face head-on.

That's why your a better man! You see you did not go running into the arms of someone else. You stood up, make your changes and dealt with it like a responsible adult. You should be VERY proud dude.

I'm still feeling good...the house is pretty empty and that's OK...it can all be replaced.

I say get a dog

I am going to GAL over the next 9 weeks by taking a course for voluteer rescue personel...for hurricanes and such...they meet every Wed and certify you in rescue techniques, protocol, and CPR. A few of my friends brought it to my attention...I like helping others and am very much into that sort of thing.

Nice idea... nothing like giving back and helping. It just goes to show the type of man that you are.

I'm wondering, I know every sitch is diff...and I'm sure the following can occur...I'm curious if closure doesn't come...if WAS is so hell bent in what they're doing that it is never offerred? I know that I can start healing further as soon as I drop the rope...I feel like I kinda have, yet I am waiting for W to reappear to get the last of her shirt, so probably not that much.

Personally, I think closure will come when you are ready for it. Don't push it...take the time for you buddy.

God Bless
Eric

[mindfull]

Maynard -

The word BLACKOUT on your sig is good. Live it! Most likely, you just lived through the worst. Don't get sucked in again.

HUGS

[jasper67]

Woke up kinda restless..I discovered some pictures W left behind in some drawers...some from our honeymoon- nothing fancy, two pictures in two frames...curious as to why she didnt take at least one of them.

No real bother...I remember reading another sitch where the W kept only leaving her wedding dress...I'm in this for the long haul...getting sleepy again. Check in tomorrow

[jasper67]

Glad to be back at work...trying to PMA as best I can...It's strange- W has not lived at the house for nearly 2 months- I've been getting along w/o her...but the move yesterday made it feel like it just happened.

I've only seen W 3 or 4 times in 2 months, and we've really not even communicated- aside from a few conversations and texts...

I know it will take me a few more days to detox from having seen her again, so I'm prepared for the ups and downs.

Still find myself reeling over hows and whys...

[ericmsant2]

May - Keep your head up high buddy. You will do fine. Keep posting.