Single and Loving It???

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SG and I have always had decent communication, other than the last few months we were married, and during some of the aftermath. But most of the time we really talk well. Of course, most of the time the talk surrounds what he is doing, what woes he has, etc. to which I do the typical womanly "uh huh" and leave it at that.

The thing is in all honesty, there really is no reason for us to talk. We don't have any kids, all property has been separated, and any conversation about the bankruptcy could be done through email.

At some point, SG was my best friend, as well as my spouse. I miss that a lot, but I am not so sure I would be able to handle being friend with him down the road. Things are still new, but I know at some point we will both meet other people. Keeping in contact w/ him just won't be the best option.

I have 3 exes. I don't have any contact w/ the first one at all, the kids are grown and there is no reason for me to stay in touch.

I do talk to XH because of the Tween, he is her dad, but even that is limited now that she is old enough to tell him what is going on. We talk maybe once a week, usually when I go to pick her up at his house on Sundays. It is always brief, never asking how the other one is, but mostly just about the Tween. We have a decent working relationship, but there is no point.

I know for me, it is because I still love the SG that I still answer the phone. Eventually that will subside (I hope) and it won't seem so important. I did it last weekend when he called, didn't answer, didn't call back.

In the meantime, I am going to enjoy my life and the Tween, and worry about what else could possibly happen when it happens, rather than looking at the future.

I do want to say, Cling, that it is a different story when you have children. And I have been doing this for, well geez, I guess going on three years now, so alot of the healing is done for me, and I am just moving into acceptance. I have discovered that sometimes, no matter what happens, you just have to have faith that there is a reason for it.