don't let his actions affect you, you still want to stay in control of your feelings.
you know what he is capable, or incapable of. until he wakes up, or has a neardeath experience, this behavior of his, is what I would expect from him.
remember how much nicer it is when you aren't in contact with him all the time.
I know you want him to be a good father, but he doesn't have a clue right now. he's never been in the father role to her, and IMHO, he has no clue what he is missing and is of course, just thinking selfishly first.
you make sure you have a good positive presence in your D's life. you need to be careful how you allow your anger to surface, although it can help remind you of why you shouldn't be with exH now, it can also hurt you in your whole being with your D. your anger will flow into the rest of you and you don't want that.
Otherwise, this scenario could happen. D is 8 years old, and because exH is such a child, he is the fun parent that she rarely sees so she desires that connection, and may even crave it. which in turn could make you feel even worse about the whole sitch and bitter, and therefore will cause the cycle to continue and get even worse.
So, you always make sure you are the positive influence in your D life and a fun presence as well.
Me 33 H 34 S9 S3 M 6 yrs (2gether 11 yrs) EA/PA 1/2006 DB 5/2006 H wants D 6/2006 H wants ME 8/2006 H "said" PA/EA over 8/2006 H erased OW off phone! 2/2007
"It is far better 2 choose humility & change oneself, than 2 wait in vain trying 2 chang someone else."
