If Not Now, When?

[ClingingToHope]

Do you have to do it face-to-face? Why not just type it up in an email and go back and forth and then you have it in writing as well so you can refer to it if he forgets.

I absolutely avoid any face to face meetings with W.

Hey, how do I find you on FB? I love keeping up with Mishka in Georgia.

One thing I did -- really without W's blessing and I know she's not happy about it -- is figure out a way to swap kids without seeing her.

The school district buses the kids to my house during the week and then when the after school sitter gets home then I drop them off. The days they are with me the sitter comes to my house.

Then on Sunday nights, they just stay with me and I drive them to school the next day. They don't pack bags or anything like that. I just keep the clothes they have when here and clean it.

It won't work as well in the summer with camps and such, but I really like it during the year.

Perhaps there's a way you can figure that out. I remember after my parents divorced sitting there on weekends waiting for my dad. That just sucks for a kid.

W has told me she doesn't like the fact they stay with me on Sunday nights. The girls love it, though. It's a full weekend. My response was to ask her whether the girls get to see me on her weekends and she said no. And the conversation stops there.

Now, in her D proposal she wants me to bring them back on Sunday nights at 6 p.m.

No way. I'm not going through that whole scene where they get out of the car and go running into my old house. That's one thing that isn't going to happen. I'll fight that to the bitter end.

I must say there are a couple of things left at the house I need to get. In my case, I'm the LBS so I've dragged my feet getting them out.

In Dan's case, he should have gotten that out a long time ago. The next time the kids are with him, box it up and email him he needs to pick it up or it goes to the curb.