feel like giving up - pt 2

[S.T. _I Made It!]

"things have been up and down..while gone it's cool when home it aint. Time is near." This tells me a lot. It tells me he has no intentions of making this work.

what this tells me, is that nothing is changing.

luv, I still, and have always felt, you had a huge amount of hope in your sitch compared to most. However, things never totally changed.

I wish I could do something for you luv so that you could open your eyes and see from the outside what is going on, or some magical pill that would give you the ability to know what to do and do it. I'm sorry. I know this is the hardest thing ever.

Unless you truly receive the strength that comes from God only, you might as well quit. It may be the only thing that you can do.

I have never given this advice, but I don't think you will ever heed everything fully, and it has obviously gotten to another point. Although I think the convo last night could have been good just because he was opening up, even though it wasn't things you wanted to hear, but communication has been a big problem with you guys.

so. whatever you do, you really must do the same things. you still need to GAL in a healthy way, you still need to humble yourself and learn the things that YOU are not doing right as a person, and as a christian person, and you need to start loving yourself as a person, forgive you and him (otherwise you will never move on in a healthy way), and you need to start enjoying and loving your life and loving other people unconditionally.

If you want to quit, then you still do the above, and you need to be as calm as possible to your H. I think it would be good to tell him that you have listened to him that he doesn't love you anymore, and that you are not happy either and that perhaps you should separate for a trial basis and go from there.

or...what is YOUR plan?