That's a tough decision, but one that you'll have to make on your own. You need to really look at your situation and evaluate what the potential with H is. If you think H can come around with more time and you have the strength to endure it, then sticking it out is something to consider. On the other hand, as H has not shown any change and has resisted getting any help for his issues, maybe it's time for some closure for your and S's sake. If you decide that you want to try to continue on, the only hope that I can give you is that it took me about 6 months from the time I set my mind to getting H into help no whatever what for him to finally start getting help. Most of the time throughout those 6 months it seemed pretty bleak, but I'm sure you can remember my excitement, when he finally showed interest in getting help and we got the ball rolling (interesting enough, I was just thinking about this, but it took him to get to a low enough spot where he spent that weekend in Vegas with OW2 to get him to get him to be open to it). So I'm just saying if you can see a change is possible and can get a plan on how you want to achieve it, then we're here to support you.
It's hard to say what the right path is - we're all here to save our marriages! But at what point is enough enough? It seems like you've tried everything from the infidelity section and with final straw being the ultimatum - where you're at now. I don't understand why he's not fighting for you and S, but for whatever reason, he's not. I don't know how else you can make it clear to him that OW is not and will never be appropriate, which makes me think you need to follow thru on your ultimatum. Maybe just try continuing on with your plan to get everything in order - H's stuff out, custody plan, etc - but then you'll still have 2 weeks to think over everything before you file during spring break. There's just really a lot to think about and even hard to advise on. I want you to be able to continue fighting and have that happily ever after, but I just don't know how else you can get thru to him. And once again, yes, you do deserve better than all this.
Well, I just hope today has been a little better day for you. It is going to be a roller coaster for awhile but just stay strong!
Me 27; H 28; S 2 Togeth 9; M 4 Sep 11/14/08 EA OW1 Sep 08 EA OW2 Mar 09 EA OW3 Jun 10
