maybe we can draft a timeline for easier reference, but I think i followed most of it. I work better with tables and timelines than a paragraph, but either way... I can make some comments...
1. Your husband is clearly infaturated with this woman 2. This woman is clearly a threat to your marriage 3. His daughter is old enough that he does NOT need to contact OW to be a father to his daughter. 4. Your H sorry to say it is playing you. MANY people having affairs suddenly have this urge to take a trip, a vacation, stay elsewhre to clear their head, separate, or find themselves. This TRIP is just him trying to get himself into a place where he can cheat and not be caught.
I suspect he is NOT ALONE wherever he is right now.
I would drop in unexpectedly if I were you.. if that's possible. I would NOT believe for a second he's alone.
Do you expose? YES! ALWAYS EXPOSE.. tell his damn daughter for starters.
Tell OW's separated Husband too... tell him his wife is now hitting on YOUR husband ... tell this man to talk to his wife and get their $hit together.
I seriously would not sit back and watch my husband stray in the convenience of a cabin someplace to hide from you.
That's what he's donig, he's NOT facing reality, he's escaping it by hiding out with OW (I suspect).
Phil McGraw says this all the time
"Separation does not make sense unless there is a risk o physical or emotional abuse... the way to resolve marital problems is to STAY connected and WORK OUT THE PROBLEM... moving AWAY from your partner solves NOTHING... it just drags OUT the time it takes TO get to a SOLUTION"
Your husband does NOT want a solution he wants to cake eat. He wants to stay married and he wants to sleep with this OW... so he hides away so he can do it freely.
Do NOT allow that.
Show up and tell him that.
Do you two have chlidren?
How old are they?
If they are 21 or older expose to THEM immeidiately.
