Is it too late to expose affair?

[gardengirl72]

I would appreciate any feed back I can get.


In June 2005, my H's ex-girlfriend called and asked if he wanted to meet his 25 yo daughter. Long story short, they met, EX told him she still loved him and wanted to be with him. Desperate to meet daughter, told EX he would tell me he would leave me....my first bomb. .....H decided later things would not work out with EX and didn't 'NEED' EX to get to know daughter!


Second bomb came 2 1/2 years later when I found out they had started talking (I had suspected) and found my H at her apartment (her and her H had separated and have since divorced)....H said he needed time to figure out what he wanted to do...I still wanted to work on marriage...I felt and still do that the EX was playing on his emotions of not seeing daughter (not his fault) all those years. At this point, I tried talking to the OW, but she would not answer her phone or come to her door! She told H she was afraid I would do something to her...PLEASE!! Sign of guilt maybe!!


H was going to stay at our cabin up north for a couple months 'to get things right in his head'....I got the ILYBNILWY... and I would NEVER divorce you...you are a great person, but I think we have drifted apart.....


Before he left, he fell off a roof (Karma?!!) was in the hospital for nine days.....we fell back into our lives, for the most part acting 'as if'.


I didn't find this site until 10/09, but, unfortunately didn't really start adhering to the info until it was too late.


Third bomb was 2/10 when H said I'm going up north to live. He said, after much prodding from me (I know, I know I was wrong!!)H doesn't want to be married anymore. He says it is not the EX (he is still talking to her) He is saying life is too short to do things I don't want to....I have never stopped him from doing what he wants to...We were always supportive of each other. He started talking this way after a friend of his died.


Sorry, long story short isn't so short. My question is, do I still expose the affair? He is telling people the reason I am not up north is because I have chosen to stay at our other house....we are retired and were going to retire up north.

I have only contacted him when he has called me first and I return his call...I'm giving him his space....but I don't think it is fair him blaming me.


Thank you...I appreciate all your insight....gg