rr22, I just read some of your early posts (12/2009) to familiarize myself with your situation. Sounds like we have a lot in common.
" . . . having problems using LRT and Going Dark because of my ex's erratic behavior."
"I also realize that I'm part of the problem with LRT and going dark. I cannot seem to make myself do it for any length of time (more than a few days)."
"He also expressed that he does not fear that he won't see me again when he sees me. I do fear that I won't see him again. He seems to be experiencing some comfort and security in this separation that I'm not."
Replace the "He" with "She" and this is my situation.
Me: 45 WAW: 45 | M22 | T25 | No Kids Nov 09 W Filed | Dec 09 Separation Mar 17 2010 Divorce Papers Signed | Divorce Hearing Cancelled Moved back home May 2010 PA Confirmed June 2010 | W left Dec 7 2010