As you all know, I have not been very good at going dark. My wife and I still get along well and keep in contact with each other, often via text message. Yesterday, during my long trip home (was out of town for work), I was feeling very discouraged. I decided not to contact her. I wanted to see if she would notice/care.

It wasn't until about 4PM that she attempted to contact me via text message. I intentionally ignored her, she sent another, then called, then another text. She called about five times and left voice messages. I waited an hour before returning her call.

When I called her she was in tears - she was shaking - she said she felt tightness in her chest. I have never heard her so upset. She thought something horrible happened to me. Apparently she cares about my well being. How can she be so attached to me yet want to end our marriage?


Me: 45 WAW: 45 | M22 | T25 | No Kids
Nov 09 W Filed | Dec 09 Separation
Mar 17 2010 Divorce Papers Signed | Divorce Hearing Cancelled
Moved back home May 2010
PA Confirmed June 2010 | W left Dec 7 2010