Thanks mindfull, I couldn't have said that better...
REALITY MAYNARD, that is what your wife is avoiding, and when YOU LIFT things for her, you ENABLE her escapism rather than leaving her to taste the reality and her choices.
When your wife has to face reality, she has to think and act and she doesn't like that... she wants someone to wave the magic wand and make the world into a happier place for her.
Do NOT WAVE the WAND...
A better question is why isn't OM there helping lift stuff?
Is he cowardly or just lazy?
Granted I would never let him in my home, but he could be there to help put stuff on the truck, but of course he's not there.
Om is doing a better job forcing WS to accept reality than you are.
Just sit back and watch them struggle... the struggling is what is going to bring your wife out of the fog... the more struggling the more she has to wake up...
If you ease that struggle you are just allowing the affair to last that much longer.
