I would not reccommend you help her move.

If the stuff is heavy that's too damn bad...

Maynard you are not helping your wife grow up or accept reality by coddling her like a child and doing everything for her.

You COULD have used this move to get her to wake UP... By standing by and doing NOTHING you demonstrate you don't agree with the move. By NOT helping them move you maintain your position on the divorce...

Consistency is key here maynard, but the message you are sending her right now is "I am your servant, use me as you like"