flowmom | need to commit to myself

[flowmom]

An email exchange from the other day:

email from H:

Hi

I'm trying to think about the amount of hours I need to work in the medium term and to do some financial forward projection. That's why knowing your monthly work totals would be helpful

Could you tell me how many billable hours you did in February 2010?

In the interests of full disclosure I did c. 168 billable hours at the fire department* and c. 60 to 80 hours of not-strictly-billable hours of Internet based work

Flowdad

* many of those hours involved sleeping, just to keep things in perspective.

My reply:

Hi Flowdad,

Thank you for working so hard to support our family...I really appreciate it.

In Feb I worked 22 h = $XXXX billable. [project] got backburnered in mid Feb. (limiting the hours that I could work), but my new project is coming online now.

Flowmom

So H just replied:

Thank you for your 'report.' Any work that you do is appreciated. We've talked about it before, but I just don't think that my current level of work is sustainable, especially given the amount of childcare which I want to do plus the commuting and shuffling of kids back and forth between homes.

I think this needs a reply. This is about H feeling like a martyr...and doing all the work.