M- how can you pretend to be taking time for yourself while having an affair?
W- my relationship is not involved, I have plenty of time for myself.
Hope you don't mind me posting. I went through that period. I would say that was the toughest time during this. Things get easier after this point. I was so intent on stopping my X from moving out, that I was kind of surprised to find out that my life actually got better when he did.
You know texting is wrong-dont' do that anymore! That's a classic example of the kind of screwed-up they are. They just are kind of delusional. My X said many times, his girlfriend (he was living with) had nothing to do with the divorce. Um, yeah, whatever. In the one therapy session he went to (to tell me it was over) he did tell the C that he would have worked on the M if he wasn't having an A. So I think they say stuff like that to convince themselves even more so than you. I def. did a lot of emails with X during that period, and it was such a joke. Best to go completely NC. If contact makes your PMA lower, and it usually does when they are having an A, then don't do it.
Most A's end, and then at that point you can decide if you want to reconcile or not. At that point, you may be surprised to find out that you don't want back on the rollercoaster. But will be your choice. For now, detach, detach, detach.
And almost forgot--don't help pack her stuff!!! Don't help her do anything that is breaking apart your M such as this move. Don't enable her. Let her feel the consequences. OM is not a hero, but rather a predator. I believe at some point your W will realize that.
