OOPS! I guess I should read my thread more often! Unfortunately free time is nonexistent these days. Keeping a lot of balls in the air, and fumbling them often.
I've never seen anyone as controlling as STBXW! A couple of weeks ago, you may all recall that S12 was with me, and asked me to sign a test.
I forgot, so when he asked STBXW to sign it the next morning when I dropped him off, she flipped out on him saying "I won't be screwed over like this" (Huh?) ,and refused to sign the test because "it was a homework assignment that he was responsible for ON MY WATCH".
As you may recall, I stopped before work to sign the test, so S12 wouldn't stress out. I called her the night before and asked her if she was kidding. All she could say over and over and over was "Was it or was it not a homework assignment!" (What's the frequency, Kenneth!).
A week later, STBX texted me and said "Please do not call S12 or text him after 9PM. If it's an emergency, please go through me". Are ya' kidding?
Two weeks ago, I was away at Reserves. It was S12's birthday on Saturday. I texted him Happy Birthday at 5AM, then went into a windowless building the rest of the day. I called S12 at 6PM, as I knew he would be on his way home from his hockey game. We talked for a couple of minutes then I asked to speak with D17, who was in the car as well. She talked for about 30 seconds and said about three times "I have to go! I'll call you in a few minutes!" (What?)
Se called back, and I asked "What was going on?" She said "Mom made me hang up because there was not enough conversation going on in the car among the family" (Huh?)
D17 then called back and asked "What took you so long to call S12 to wish him a happy birthday?" I KNEW THIS WAS STBX TALKING.
I asked D17 if she was the spokesman for the committee that decided when I should/should not call S12, and what my allotted window was, where I wouldn't be scolded. She immediately got it.
The latest eruption was the other night. STBXW and S12 got into an argument because her best freind had given S12 an American Express gift card for $50 for his brithday.
S12 asked STBX if he could put the $50 toward an XBox for my apartment (I live on the 9th floor of a city apartment, where he is kinda confined when he's with me, so there's nothing to do).
She responded "No. That card was given to you by my friends and you may not spend it on anything that doesn't stay in my house" (This is a no sh&t story!)
As you recall, she will also not let D17 use the Jeep that her "Smarmyparamourscumbagbossthatsheshavinganaffairwith" purchased for my daughter, if it in anyway benefits me. I have to take D17 to work and pick her up, take her to friends houses, etc. when she is with me, while the stupid Jeep sits unused!
Understandably, S12 got upset, and according to him told STBX "That's stupid", at which point, she threw a plastic bowl at S12, barely missing his head.
She then went to the computer table, and threw his books on the floor and screamed "Clean this crap up and then go to your room!"
She then did her usual act of storming out of the house and not returning for an hour or so. She used to put wine in a plastic bottle and go to the beach, drink the wine and smoke cigarettes!
There really ARE some marriages that can't or should be saved. It's hard to believe that four years later, I believe she did me the biggest favor of my life. I DO feel sorry for my kids!
