I am reading what you wrote and omgosh is it true of my sitch too! I would once in ahwile take a stand and say no (if he actually asked before he bought something) and then I would feel guilty and back down. I didn't want to be like his ex who he said controlled all the money and would never let him get what he wanted!
I also tended to get mad easily and then do the silent treatment. I don't want to be that way anymore!
I just let him jabber on yesterday and did a nodding etc. One thing I thought later about was that H had also mentioned that he was "not above" coming and splitting some more wood and I told him that I had ordered more propane and that as long as he was working 7 days/week that it I wouldn't ask him to do that. Maybe I should have let him do that?
Now I do have a question...I do want to discuss our financial situation with him and yes, it is in hopes that he will slow down the D. As I have said, I will not be able to afford the house payment on my own and am getting more money from him now than I would with just child support. I would like to call him and ask for a meeting to discuss them. I want to show him that we owe more than what we could sell our house for. I have taken all the bills and split them 50/50 (with the exception of his car/cycle payments as unless he wants to sell those, he will have to continue to take those over or sell them). I am not sure that he realizes all of this, I am prepared that he may not care one way or the other. I just feel that I need to put it out there... I have thought of just mailing him the stuff too. Any advice?
M48 H53 M16 T18 S16 D13 SS30 H drops bomb PA/8-30-09 H leaves 12-30-09 D filed by H 2-10 H asks to come home 4-11 Piecing
