C-Bart - I hope you made it through the wee hours of the morning without sending the text. I've been there.....done that......it only leads to more pain. Maybe we need to share our cell #'s on the alt----the group of us----and take turns texting each other that we "love our H" or "love or W"......so we get the satisfaction of sending the message???????? without the pain of rejection.......I know this REALLY sux.........
Me 45 M 25 yrs; T 31 yrs;bomb 8/15/06; moves out 7/18/08 D 18, D 14, S 12
I know how you feel man. I too would love to say..."I love you" but the reality is that we need to let go and let God. Their is really nothing we can do except keep working on ourself. I believe the pain will pass in time..as a matter fact I know it will. Take this time for you DUDE - for you. Pick your head up and NO that you will make it. You will make it.
This can't be - feel free to look me up on the alt...I'll send u my number. We need to stick together, help and strengthen each other. Lord knows that yesterday I would appreciated a call. God Bless
Eric
"The difficulties of Life are intended to make us BETTER,not bitter". "Fear is a prison, where you are the jailer. FREE YOURSELF!" "Life is usually all about how you handle Plan B." - Jack3Beans
The only analogy I can give you is of someone sinking in quick sand. If you panic and try and pull him out you will get sucked down with him. Your are no good to anyone standing in the same hole. Go look for some sticks and ropes(self improvements) but for God's sakes stay away from the hole.
C-Bart, Remember this? I do, and it has saved me more than once. I truly understand how you feel.
Take care.
Thanks Seeking Answers. You made my day.
_________________________ Me-41 W-39 M-15 yrs T-17 yrs D-12 S-9 S-8 B 5/08 S 1/09
Made it through Friday/Saturday morning without drunk texting. Thanks to this forum I was able to just let it out versus acting it out.
Yesterday I did spend a couple of hours with the family for D12's birthday party. My sister in-law is in town so I got to see her for a bit. Pretty uneventful. The three of us W, SL and I sat by the pool and talked for a couple of hours. All good. I was very nice and polite. Even laughed. W was distant for the first 20 minutes or so but she warmed up.
Spent the rest of the day sleeping and vegging. Note to self; alcohol and ADs don't mix very well.
Thanks to you all for keeping me on track. Its great to know there are people out there who care. As for the alt, I'm there. I've asked OP to send you my info. Hope you are friends of his. If not we'll figure something out.
_________________________ Me-41 W-39 M-15 yrs T-17 yrs D-12 S-9 S-8 B 5/08 S 1/09
Glad to see you made it thru Fri and Sat. Sitting by the pool...shite that is what I need. I so need freaking break from this.
"The difficulties of Life are intended to make us BETTER,not bitter". "Fear is a prison, where you are the jailer. FREE YOURSELF!" "Life is usually all about how you handle Plan B." - Jack3Beans
Just got back from having lunch with W, kids and SIL. She's heading home today so I wanted to visit with her a bit more. My invitation and treat. Another great encounter except for a small disagreement about child care arrangements. The disagreement was settle very calmly and respectfully and we moved on.
_________________________ Me-41 W-39 M-15 yrs T-17 yrs D-12 S-9 S-8 B 5/08 S 1/09