DU, I am very sorry to read that you've been ill. I hope that you are feeling a little bit better today. Stress can be a real kicker and if you are already depressed, it doesn't help one bit.
So, the neighbors want to throw him a party? I think I would put this in his ball park and let him make the decision. If they mention it again, just say "you will need to ask him about it" and let it go. He may not want a party and he should be the one to tell them what his desires are. If you were to provide an answer, no matter what it would be, he wouldn't be happy w/the response and that's the reason you toss this one into his court and let the man make the decision.
Please take care of yourself.
Sit quietly, the answers will reveal themselves when you least expect them to. The past is gone, the present is a gift and you need to focus on today, allow the future to reveal itself when it is ready.
My H sent me an attachment to be tied to a SA. I am so sad. I don't know what to do....
OLD THREAD-http://tinyurl.com/y98nuty Me 44 H 51 T 15 yrs M 9+ yrs No Kids "You may be deceived if you trust too much, but you will live in torment unless you trust enough."
DU, It's understandable to be sad and upset about this, but you need to read the attachment and then provide it to your lawyer. If you do not agree w/what is in the attachment, advise your lawyer of your thoughts. Allow him/her to negotiate the SA...do not get into it w/your h.
You can only stall a divorce and/or SA so long....if a lawyer is involved, it will eat up all of your funds before you know it. You may have to end up going through w/the divorce and hopefully at some point, he will wake up and realize that you are the one he truly wants to spend the rest of h is life with. I know that this isn't what you want, but unlike marriage, which takes the decision of two people to do it; divorce is totally different, especially if one is hell bent on getting one. I'm so very sorry he's pushing this.
Sit quietly, the answers will reveal themselves when you least expect them to. The past is gone, the present is a gift and you need to focus on today, allow the future to reveal itself when it is ready.
I agree with Snodderly, my wife is so bent on the divorce, but wanted me to protect the kids, but everytime I would file a motion for the kids to have counseling, wife would "make sure it back fires on you."
So anyway her divorce $1150, mine over $8000.
It also may be easier this way to give them what they think they need, but we can leave our marriages with dignity.
My family just had to get back on the road. There is no one here.
OLD THREAD-http://tinyurl.com/y98nuty Me 44 H 51 T 15 yrs M 9+ yrs No Kids "You may be deceived if you trust too much, but you will live in torment unless you trust enough."
DU, Breathe! Settle yourself down a bit and take the afternoon to relax. You do not need to review the document today....watch a good movie, pull out a book or better yet, take a much needed nap.
Sit quietly, the answers will reveal themselves when you least expect them to. The past is gone, the present is a gift and you need to focus on today, allow the future to reveal itself when it is ready.
DU...it is a good day to get out of the house! Go see a friend, go window shopping, go to a movie...do something distracting! You WILL get through this!!!
M48 H53 M16 T18 S16 D13 SS30 H drops bomb PA/8-30-09 H leaves 12-30-09 D filed by H 2-10 H asks to come home 4-11 Piecing
Thank you so much to my DB friend who I spoke to earlier. It was good to talk to you and you helped calm me down. Snodderly and CW, I will try NOT to focus on the email my H sent earlier.
Not going out today (it is quite gloomly and raining). I am watching a movie this afternoon and may have a friend and her kids over for dinner tonight. The kids will definitely keep me occupied. I am not working tomorrow, so I will talk to the L tomorrow and do some housework tomorrow. I plan to stay away from my H. I am sad that I know nothing of deployment plans other than what he gave to me last month.
I will have to keep myself busy. I AM SO HAPPY that I have all of your help and SUPPORT.. (((((THANK YOU)))))
OLD THREAD-http://tinyurl.com/y98nuty Me 44 H 51 T 15 yrs M 9+ yrs No Kids "You may be deceived if you trust too much, but you will live in torment unless you trust enough."
So, the neighbors want to throw him a party? I think I would put this in his ball park and let him make the decision. If they mention it again, just say "you will need to ask him about it" and let it go. He may not want a party and he should be the one to tell them what his desires are. If you were to provide an answer, no matter what it would be, he wouldn't be happy w/the response and that's the reason you toss this one into his court and let the man make the decision
I agree.
me: 42 | STBXH: 41 | T: 18 | M: 10 | separation: Jan 3, 2010 | they deserve better: S7 & D4 current thread: http://tinyurl.com/3y8sxcp .: first breathe, then heal, then start LIVING :.
