Newmama, I am still here. The bitterness of some of the people going through divorce does not make me forget that the subject here is love. This is the Divorce Busting board, and I will still try to help people rekindle love, if that is what they want. They say that love is a state of temporary insanity. And I think that is true. So if "sane" people who are not in love can't understand the actions of someone who is in love, that is not surprising.