Detachment is NOT supposed to be like a two week vacation and you go back for more abuse.
You are supposed to protect yourself until your wife grows up, or until divorce is easy for you and in no way painful.
The texts should not have happened at all no... you knew that.
And do NOT pack up her things FOR HER so the move is faster.. toss them in a box and throw them someplace...
DO NOT let her USE YOU.. NOW she has you using her to PACK her THINGS... she knows if she takes her time, YOU will pack for her... don't be a damn fool.
And I think puppy's right, stop calling it an affair, call it infidelity, it has a lot more negative tone to it.
Stop talking to your wife, you know its useless.
Do NOT expect that it will take you just two weeks to detach and have an objective exchang with her.
I am going to prescribe you at LEAST a six to nine month protection phase before you can have an exchange with her where you can STOP her when she tries to use you or hurt you.
Right now you are WAY TOO VULNERABLE to deal with her... and you seem to refuse to take a friend with you to protect you either... STOP the EXCHANGE.. get her crap out of your house.. ASAP
