Maynard, if you take every crumb she is going to offer you, you will never be offered better.
You deserve better... tell her that.
If she tries to hug you, you put your hand up and tell her "NO"
She is gonna get pissed or pout or whatever, its all an attempt to manipulate you to YOUR detriment... short term for HER, she gets to feel less guilty, long term for you is you take longer to detach.
She's using you.
Next time she tries that tell her
"You didn't want me remember... ?"
And you cross your arms and direct her to get her things and go.
I agree with earlier post, take it to a neutral place or something and tell her to pick it up there.
Do NOT do her ANY favours by delivering it to her. Take it to YOUR friend's place who does NOT agree with what she is doing and tell her she can find it all there and make arrangements with your friend.
Wayward spouses pull this stunt of picking up things all the damn time.. they drag out the pain and use you while softening their guilt at the same time... do NOT allow it... get her crap out of there.. with NO NOTICE to her... put it at your pal's place and AFTER its all moved you tell your wife where she can get it... no apology or explanation.
MOVE it someplace NEUTRAL with NO WARNING to her.. NOW
